We get to make choices every day all day long. Some of them are obvious. Who will you marry? How will you spend your money? What will you major in? Where do you want to work? Who will be your friends? But some are so quick that we take them for granted. Every day regular choices we make, which sometimes become habits we don't even know we have, and we might think we don't even have a choice in the matter anymore... but we do.
When someone cuts you off when driving, what do you do?
When someone lies to you, what do you do?
When the flowers die, what do you do?
When the kids make you a gift, what do you do?
You see, after everything in your day happens there is a moment, be it ever so slight, where you make a choice. The choice determines how you will respond.
Too often we justify our actions by the actions of others. But truth be told, we are responsible for what we do. No matter how hard it is to make a choice, no matter how hard it is to choose differently than we have in the past, we still choose. But one thing I have noticed is that we have to know we are making the choice before we can choose well.
So, now you know. You choose.
Will you continue to live your life reacting to everything that happens, giving your power to others, and blaming them when things go badly, holding onto bitterness, being resentful and angry, and simply living your life without joy, peace, contentment, and not living in love?
Will you take a moment to pause? Will you choose well in that pause, then shrug your shoulders, accept what it will be is what it will be, make the best of it, breathe, forgive, trust others are doing the very best they can in the moment, and rely on God's strength, joy, and peace to live in contentment and exude love?
I've known people who have lived through horrifying times, and yet they didn't live as if it was horrifying. Their hearts broke. Their worlds were turned upside down. It took time for them to find a new normal. But their response was always one of grace, joy, love, peace, and quietness. I want to be more like those people. They are examples of how I would like to live my life. That is the choice I am going to work hard to make in that space.
What about you? You know about that space now. What are you going to do there?